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**Hello everybody!!! I finally was able to get access to the wikispaces. It was about quarter til 8:00am. I was born and raised in the Philippines. I first step foot on US soil on april 28, 1992. I never forgot the date because 2 days later, the L.A. riot broke loose. I have 2 bachelors degree: 1) Management & Industrial Engineering and 2) Theology. I almost finish my masters degree in teaching math, hoping to finish it here.** ======

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**Both my parents were educators. My father has 3 jobs 1) high school teacher, 2) professor in college, and 3) a journalist. My mother however is a math teacher. I always was living on my father's shadow. It was hard to get out of it. But life has to go on. Both my parents had contibuted to who I am now, a well rounded person, the so-called jack of al trades master of none.** ======

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**“According to Coleman (1991), children need many types of support systems to grow into functioning adults. They need what he called human, financial and social capital, which provide the nurturing and physical environment in which children learn to cope with their world”.** ======

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 * In my opinion, the main thing that a child should have is the tender loving care or (TLC). In this economy, the first priority of parents is the children. The tender loving care is important because, this is the point wherein parents would realize that children need many support system. Through the tender loving care, parents would be proactive in gathering together with unity in solving issues involving their children.It also would help parents and teachers formulate solutions for a variety situations that result in different issues involving their children. **======

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**One example in real life which would prove my point is, early in my life, my father worked three jobs when my mother stopped working to put food on the table. He had more than enough to support our relatives in China and Taiwan. I enjoyed my childhood because I felt the support financially, socially, and emotionally. Most importantly, when one of the siblings is sick, my father would take time off from work just to be with the sick child. This tells me that there is tender loving care present in the family. Everyday, we would have family praying time. In other** **times, he would bring as to the park, museum, and zoo. My father would look at both sides of the conflict when problems arises from the school. One incident was when I came home with two black eyes for standing for what is right. He examines both sides even if I am the apple of his eyes. He noticed that I was jumped by 2 adults (the elder brothers of the boy bullying me) and a boy who was bullying me by calling me names. He then went directly to the principal, an ex-student of my father, to file a complain. As a result the 2 adults were suspended 1 week apiece, and the bullying boy 3 days. He then started teaching me how to defend myself.** ======

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**Another thing I found out from my childhood was there exists a strong male figure in my family which was portayed by my father. He had been accused of many things, yet he stands strong even when the rubber meets the road, and going gets tough. He was able to support my family and at the same time support my relatives in China and Taiwan. He was considered a well rounded person. He likes to play soccer and martial arts. He never use this to discipline us nor his student. One thing I notice from him was whenever there is a big function in the school, not even the principal is respected by the student. But once my father stepped into the podium, I noticed that every body stopped talking.** ======

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**I think through the early 1900's, American educational system has been great. It started to walk the downhill path at about 1960's. One of the factors that leads to this, in my opinion was, Americans forgot the foundation of their forefathers had established. During the early 1900's, our bills said " In God we trust." Until now, we took prayers out of the classroom, and changed it to a moment of silence. Pretty soon that moment of silent will be gone.** ======

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**Another factor is that people who don't know anything about education were telling the educators to do this or that, forcing many educators to play politics with them. The educators end up using illegal means such as cheating, pretending, and other means to fulfill the requirements set up by this ignorant politicians. Some other means such as social promotion, (passing students at all cost) had lowered the standard of education. A few days after I first step foot on US soil, I heard a news about a Chinese professor of Mathematics in Michigan state resigned out of his conscience, because he refused to lower his standard by passing his students at all cost.** ======

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**Finally, I wanted to make my last point. Experienced teacher should not be forced to have early retirement, but they should be utilized in training new teachers. A Chinese saying goes like this, "You have not eaten much rice as I did," clearly made my point. New teachers learned more from an experienced teacher and that is a fact.** ======

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**In conclusion, education is the most important thing a person can get. You might be poor, but with enough education, you will become rich. We should never deviate from what our forefathers had established. We learn a lesson of what happened to our educational system.** ======

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**amily diversity also contributes to the way the educational system in the US today.Growing up as a child, I have observed a diverse changes in family values. The child who came from rich family with less family values end up being poor because the riches werebeing squandered as a result of poor money management practice, while a child who came from poor family with rich family values will manage to overcome poverty and struggle to survive and eventually become rich through hard work, persistance and endurance. This type of people will never forget where they came from. One that struck me is the fact that families that preserved their values are the ones on top of things and sometimes goes beyond their expected goals, while families that forgot their values end up with nothing.** ======

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**In my second observation, students who embraced their culture end up excelling in their chosen carrer and surpassing those students who don't. Many students who lost their identity end up in poverty and furthermore, dropping out of their chosen field.** ======

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**In my third observation, politicians, no matter which part of the globe they came from, were only mindful of their selfish gains. They helped people just for the show. They should not only be aware of who puts them to office, but should remember to put their families first, in orderto stay in office longer. By saying "Put family first," I mean that they should guard the reputation of their own families. If they were able to do this, then they will be able to help families in need. In my observation, I found that many broken families existed. This also contributes to the down fall of our educational system.** ======

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**In conclusion, the culture of a family and its values should be preserved in order for our educational system to be strong again. We need people to start now, before its too late. We started to be the best in the world and we should struggle to be the best in the world again.** ======

**CHAPTER 4 UNDERSTANDING ROLES & EXPERIENCES OF PARENTS**
**“Children need unconditional love and affection from their parents. They also require the security that comes from a safe, familiar environment, a consistent daily routine, and the knowledge that adults expect certain behaviors from them.” Chapter 4 pg.117**

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 * From the previous chapter, I stated that fathers are the ones leading the family. He should provide, protect, and preserve the values of the family. The broken homes is the dilema that we are facing and this is affect our educational system. When I say provide, it involves the sense of security within the family, when I say protect, it involves the up bringing of children meaning the values or norm within the family, and when I say preserve, it involves training children to be consistent and extra careful with the family values, therefore, the reputation of the family is at stake. **======

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 * The father is the key figure in having the unconditional love, affection, and sense of security. It was really hard to convince children from broken family to become successful. I would like to tell you a **** n experience wherein a met a child from a broken family. We met at the school where he was the custodian. He overheard my conversation with another teacher that I know martial arts. He was interested but don't have the means to pay me. And he shared with me that his brother was also interested. We set an appointment for the training session. Later, after, several session, I discovered that his father left them for another woman. This was because that he was informed by relatives that his father was in the hospital. I told the two brothers to forget the past and visit their father. They did it and felt relieve, because the burden of revenge and violence was released from them for they started to enjoy the spirit of forgiveness towards their father. **======

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 * Since then, the two brothers were training with me. His younger brother was able to do the most difficult routine first then his elder brother. Later, I told them I could no longer do the most difficult routine because of my weight but they insisted that I will be able to do it. They taught to train harder and now I was able to practice what I teach. **======

Henry, Is great and also interesting that parenting in all cultures is one of the most powerful forces that strives new generations to move forward; for that reason families need to be supported by the government, scholars, and the community in general to become stronger. No matter the challenges that modern culture present to parents, children, educators and caregivers, I deeply believe that stronger and healthier families are able to do a better job with young population. You are right when you say that education is the best way society can improve. We as educators are an important part of that big package named "educational system" we have the advocacy to become highly effective and professional leaders to make a remarkable difference in our students and their families life. -Maria Esperanza Gil

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 * Henry, I like the fact that you introduce the quote from the chapter first and then go deep in reflection. Make sure you revise & edit your postings prior to posting. This will make sure that you are adhering to all online protocols/assignment guidelines. --Prof. K. **======

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I think the broken family is an issue that is very strong in many communities. Many families especially some of the children we teach deal with this issue. I think we should accept the fact that we are living in a new day and age and the mothers are doing it all. Yes, father's are needed especially for our young men growing up, but women are now doing the same job a man is doing plus her own duties. No, it's not fair but it's reality. I have seen many children of single moms who are successful. I can't relate to this subject personally but i have seen many success stories. ======

__** PARENT INTERVIEW **__

 * 1. Are you a parent or guardian of a child? Please explain. **
 * Yes, I got two beautiful daughters. **
 * 2. How many children do you have? What are their ages? **
 * Two daughters, ages 23 and 21. **
 * 3. What languages are spoken in your household? Is there a primary language that is used? Explain. **
 * We speak Tagalog at home and English in public. **
 * 4. What are some expectations you have for your children? **
 * I am very much concern about their future, so I expected them to be serious in education. **
 * 5. What kind of relationship do you have for your children? **
 * I kept an open communication with my daughters. So far they did not give me any headaches. **
 * 6. What are your household daily routines? Consider your morning, afternoon, and evening rituals. **
 * Me and my wife took turns taking our children to school. We come together at night, eat dinner together, and talk about what happened in school. **
 * 7. What is your current occupation or profession? **
 * I own a barber shop and my wife is a nurse. **
 * 8. What kind of relationshipdo you currently have with your childrens' teacher? how often do you communicate with the teacher? **
 * We were very cooperative when it comes to education of my children. **
 * 9. What is your personal view of the school that your children attends? Did you choose this school? **
 * I considered myself blessed to have a good school district. **